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Face washing, seems easy right? BIG misconception! The idea of washing your face can be extremely easy, but the truth is, you’re doing it all wrong. 

FIRST, you have your cleansers.  I can name 10 different types of cleansers off the top of my head right now.  So how do you differentiate which one is right for you? These  are the 3 most commonly used cleanser types.  Cream cleansers are a goto for all skin types looking to keep skin hydrated and free from stripping it of their natural oils.  Ideally using this type of product on super oily and acne prone skin,

 is a major no-no.  You want to choose a Water based cleanser like the micellar cleansers that are gentle, soothing and not drying. Stay clear of Oil cleansers as well.  The idea of washing your face with oil may sound a bit crazy, but they are great a great option for you guys and gals wearing a lot of makeup o, soothing and not drying. Stay clear of Oil cleansers as well.  The idea of washing your face with oil may sound a bit crazy, but they are great a great option for you guys and gals wearing a lot of makeup or really dry dehydrated skin types. 

Rinsing with cool to cold water is a MUST! I know we have all been taught to cleanse with warm water to help open and cleanse pores, but unfortunately that’s wrong! Here’s why: If we are consistently cleansing with warm water and consistently opening up our pores then pores stay open and keep getting bigger. The goal for our skin is to tighten and minimize the look of our pores. By using cool to cold water we can do just that!

FREE TIP: this is great to do in the shower too! Keeps hair shiny and skin on your body tight and firm also.

HOT TO: While cleansing, applying serums or moisturizing we need to make sure we are always using upward movements, never pulling down. Gravity already will take its toll so lets try to beat it while always moving up. Always being gentle with the skin, never being aggressive even with drying. Use a clean wash cloth each time and pat dry, never rub and never completely dry the skin leave some moisture on the skin. 

DID YOU SAY EXFOLIATE? Exfoliation is key to skin care.  Some do it, some don’t, and some over due it. The right amount really varies for each skin type, If using a physical scrub I suggest 2 to 3 a week and no.  If you are using a chemical exfoliation, usually they are gentle enough to be used everyday and does not dry out your skin.  Keep in mind this will also replace that fun toner product you have been using as well. Some exfoliants tend to strip the skin of its natural oil making it drying to some or for others will make the skin more oily depending on how often one is using it. Consistency is important when it comes to exfoliation no matter what.

Serums, it’s the new new! These should always be applied after cleansing or exfoliating and before moisturizing. If you are using more than one serum always use the buildable product first and the heavier one last.  Usually a more liquid serum means the molecule are a lot smaller making it penetrate in the skin deeper.  Apply this to clean skin. Moisturizers are heavier and offer a surfaced hydration.

Eye cream. I always like to tell my clients that Eye creams are for the day and Eye serums are best for night. We don’t do much blinking during the night so not of stimulation happens around the eyes resulting to the eye cream that you placed around the eye to just sit on the skin resulting to a puffy under eye when you wake versus when using a eye serum at night and the serum penetrates into the skin with no need of stimulation since the molecule is small enough to penetrate on its own, resulting to refreshed bright eyes when you wake. Always use a eye cream during the day to help keep the skin around the eye hydrated especially if the eye serum used at night was a little detoxifying targeting dark eye circles. 

Let’s face it, we all are going through something in one way or another.  We all have bills, some of us have kids, families, significant others.  Some are struggling at work, while others are thriving.  I know I have had my fair share of bullsh*t in my life, which led me to do some heavy self-reflecting over the past few years.  At first, I sat here contemplating if I was even qualified to write the article because of all the craziness I have experienced throughout my life.  Then I realized, “HELL YES I AM!” If there is one thing I have been consistent about, it’s overcoming adversity and finding my joy through all of the Bullsh*t!  I find if I input these things into my life in one way or another, my level of stress and anxiety goes down and my joy meter goes up!


  1. Chill Out Dude.    Drop what you’re doing right now and just breathe. In and out, in and out. Good! We live in a society where we get too busy to just be. Causing us to only exist instead of actually live.  I have been victim of this my entire life.  I’m a serial-workaholic! A single-mom! An over-achiever! A people pleaser! Until one day I came crashing down, and I crashed hard.  I had to learn the hard way to just relax and breathe. I needed to learn to find balance in order to find my joy. I highly recommend getting into meditation and working on breathe work. 
  2. Get Over it.    I know, it sounds harsh and insensitive, I get it, but it’s reality.  We get in these phases where we feel completely stuck in our situation or the past.  People have done you wrong, hurt your feelings, broken your heart, impaired you in one way or another. I get it, I’ve been there, and I’m totally with you on this one. The truth of the matter is, at this point, the only one hurting you is you.  Allowing yourself to be consumed by such negative energy only hinders yourself from growth.  It doesn’t help to keep a tight grip on those grudges either.  Trust me, the universe works in mysterious ways.  You may not see the silver lining now, but in time it will come to the surface.  It’s time to forgive them and to forgive yourself.
  3. Fuel the Fire.     What makes your pulse come alive? What do you firmly believe in and could talk about all day long? Dive deep inside yourself and find what that is and run with it.  If you’re reading this one and think to yourself, I have no flipping idea!, then it’s time to do some soul searching, try new things, and discover your inner FLAME.  People make the mistake of thinking our passion has to be our career.  That’s not what I’m referring to here.  I’m talking about things you do that make you genuinely happy. Your passion isn’t your escape.  It’s what keeps us going.  It is the fuel to your fire.
  4. The Giving Tree.     Always loved this book as a kid.  It taught us the wonderful lesson of generosity.  As humans it is in our nature to want attention, love, and support.  I was always thinking I couldn’t begin my life until I got everything I thought I needed.  Rude awakening, when it all disappears over night.  Let’s get real people, consider that you may not actually need what you think you need, instead it is just something that you really want. Keeping up with the “Jones’s” is cool, but living a generous life is cooler. I’m a solid believer that you have to give to get.  Give out to others what you want or need. Pull out the stops in offering attention, interest, and care.  Do something for someone besides yourself.  It’s remarkably rewarding.  Believing you can’t give enough becomes love overflowing.
  5. Find your homies.     Have you ever taken a moment, looked around at the people surrounding you and thought, “Damn. I love these people!”  or maybe it was the opposite.  Maybe you thought to yourself, “Why am I here?  Why do I continue to find myself in this circle of drama?”  It’s cool, I’ve been in both places before so I completely understand.  I’ve also felt extremely alone at times as if no one in the world understands me.  This is the circle of life my friends.  Although life can seem lonely at times, I want you to really be grateful for specific people who are willing to listen to you when you need them. If you’re stuck in a group of friends who can be manipulative, controlling, and just a bad influence then it’s time to make some difficult decisions.  Often times toxic people make these decisions for us subconsciously and we aren’t able to recognize it right away.  When we finally step away from these draining connections, it can be freeing!
  6. Get Creative.      No matter what your talents, skills or desires, getting creative is a great way to find joy. Whether you write, draw, sing or decorate a cake, developing a skill that utilizes your imagination is going to bring you tons of happiness.  Besides, who cares if you “suck” at it! It’s fun!
  7. Be Your Authentic Awesome Self.     We live in a world where we are surrounded by ideals, and with a tendency to compare ourselves to others, it’s no wonder so many of us feel like we’re not enough.  I’d tell myself that makeup was a hobby, not a “real job.” I sought approval through promotions and success through status, neither of which made me happy.  To find joy, we must be true to ourselves, create our own dreams, and be proud of what makes us unique. So, instead of comparing yourself to others, look to see if you’re fulfilling your own potential in accordance with what you value most.
  8. Be a Big Kid.     Remember what it was like to play as a child? Many of those things that brought you pleasure then still can today – but as a grown up, we often lose touch with that. Think about what made you happy when you were six or seven. Rolling down a grassy hill? Playing with your dog? Dancing to silly music? Give yourself permission to experience that again.
  9. Follow the yellow brick road.     Sometimes we’d like to change things, but it’s just too hard. We know we’re unhappy where we are, but the alternatives are too scary. Familiar feels secure, even if it doesn’t make us happy. For me, changing careers, leaving a relationship, and ending a business all left me clenched with fear.  I was afraid of failure. But it’s only by facing these fears that we are able to grow into the people we’re capable of being.  To get somewhere you’ve never been, you might have to do something you’ve never done. Life begins at the end of our comfort zone!
  10. Find your Flex. Learn from experiences.   To be joyful, it is critical that we embrace tough times, too. They come to us all. It’s how we deal with them and bounce back that impacts our happiness. This is our resilience, our “flex”.  We spend much of our time trying to avoid the bad times and cling to the good, yet both will always come and go. Embracing this and shifting our perspective is key to creating joy.